Common Ground: Posted by Harry

I've been thinking about Sallie's recent comment regarding our kids and remember all the talks we've had around this subject, about the experience of being a parent, and also about our pasts before children, and the revelation of suddenly realizing you had wanted to be a parent, and then the tide of feeling that had swept us away on becoming parents. Almost from the beginning of our relationship, in early dates (0? 1 or 2?) and certainly on our phone calls, we'd discussed the sacrifices of parenthood and the difficulty of relating to single people (especially on dating sites) who had never experienced that someone else in their lives were more important, or that the needs of a child came before everything else --- certainly before your own needs.